Just like 4th grade, every semester I split the class up into boys and girls and put them into different rooms. Their task in these homogeneous groups is to list “how might we describe men and women in the classroom.” Before they head off into different areas, I tell them that what we are after are the “common assumptions” one might make about someone else based on their gender. That is, we’re after the generalizations, the stereotypes, the “things we all know.”
After allowing the two gender specific groups to get into the discussion (and usually it doesn’t take long until both groups are laughing at the commonalities of their observations) and generate a list for both “men” and “women,” I bring them all back into the same class and we put the lists up on the blackboard for everyone to see/discuss.
What follows is a fascinating exploration into normative expectations of gender as well as the mechanisms of social identification. First the images:
Men (by Men)
Women (by Men)
Men (by Women)
Women (by Women)
What we talk about and consequently spend time thinking about are these gender based “normative expectations” we all recognize and apply to people. That is, these patterns (and I have done this particular exercise for 8 semesters now…the lists are almost always identical) are real and easily observed once we look for them. “Gender” is not just an abstract concept, but something that readily organizes the way we not only understand the world but also operate within it. The concept of “social identification” weaves into the discussion as we note that while it is true that one can “do anything they want,” in order to be recognized as a particular sort of being (that is male/female) there are certain things one must do that are familiar and within these frameworks.
The question we take up at the conclusion of this exercise focuses on how successfully performing within these normative expectations for gender are advantageous in some environments and not in others (what I might call the kairos of gender). For instance, one very common observation is the rebellious/distant/”tuned out” male. As we discuss, males often feel the need to act “too cool for school” in order to preserve an image of masculinity. This performance might earn acceptance into certain male communities while at the same time prohibiting certain kinds of academic success.
As an educator, these sorts of exercises are not just interesting but terribly important. What they signal to me is that “difference” and “experience” in the classroom can be utilized to uncover or remove the invisibility of things such as the social and cultural importance of gender. Many students are resistant to the idea that one’s gender is a determinant in the availability of cultural capital. I believe this resistance stems from a prohibition against recognizing difference in primary and secondary education. That is, students are taught that everyone is equal and that who you are cannot determine you who you can be. While these are incredibly important hopes we might have for society, the lived effect on students is that they see a recognition of difference as breaking the rule that everyone should be considered equal, thus squelching any recognition of structural inequality.
More importantly, though, these exercises work well when difference in student experience can be leveraged in the classroom itself.. In my classes, gender is a particularly easy concept to work with simply because I have both male and females in the classroom. Race, however, is different because my classes in these post-secondary environments are typically 95%+ white. This is particularly troublesome for educators committed to anti-racist work within the post-secondary environment, something I myself have struggled to theorize. Dialogue is incredibly potent in terms of being able to open a productive space to work in simply because “difference” produces raw material to work with. Monologues such as whiteness in many post-secondary classrooms, however, shut down these productive spaces and leave us with little raw material to work with—the end result usually being a reification of previously held attitudes instead of an opportunity to transform such attitudes.